It has been really painful to witness death of family members of a couple of my dear friends in the recent past. The lamentation and the grief that the families went through were shocking to say the least.
But more than the grief that these families experienced, I was shocked to see the behavior of some people after the news was conveyed to them. Many people enquired about the address of the affected person and conveyed that they wanted to visit and would join with me to convey their condolences the same day. But, when we finally started to the friend’s home, we found that most of them had dropped out. Considering the fact that some people really get disturbed on seeing the family in grief and are advised medically to not attend these events and giving the benefit of doubt to some others who are really busy and are unable to attend, still it is shocking to find that many people who expressed willingness to attend dropped off. But when I asked some of these persons the reasons, their answers were “ the place is very far from my house”, ”I shall try to combine this with another relatives place that I would be visiting in a few days”, “ I did not feel the need to go to”.
It is really shocking to see that human life and values have gone this cheap in this mechanized world. I have witnessed in a lot of these bereavements, the comfort the family of the deceased obtain when they have a shoulder to cry upon. I do not expect these people to change their ways and empathize with the affected, but at least they could avoid lame reasons for not sharing the sorrow of the affected.
True Jo Ka!!! It is the lame excuse that hurts us more than anything. The importance given to human values has come down drastically these days!! Dunno where dis mechanical world is heading to……..
I do have an experience of this…
One of my teammates fell down from his bike, suffered minor head injuries and was admitted to a hospital rite opposite to our office. We ppl were already there and when the message was conveyed to one of our Managers, this was his response “So What should I do now”.. whereas another manager was already at the hospital filling up the Insurance forms. Two sides of the same coin (not sure whether this a right phrase to be used here) …There are a few gud persons too….